Author Archives: Tina Christie

Learning the Labyrinth

I wanted one in my yard for years.

Every year our church sets up an indoor labyrinth during Lent. I have not gone to it once.

Camp Hanover, which hosts our congregational retreats, has a stone labyrinth. Despite having attended multiple retreats, I have not once walked the labyrinth there.

Still, something has always appealed to me about it. I could make one in my yard with stones. Or bricks. Or a boundary of flowers – how beautiful would that be?

Idea Becomes Reality

Finally, the opportunity to try a yard labyrinth came to me as a result of my elephant ear addiction. I have all types of elephant ear plants – very large to tiny, in a range of colors that include various shades of green, yellow, blue, pink, and black. Over the years one elephant ear bulb became many, and soon I had enough pots to arrange them in a small labyrinth!

The first summer that I had my labyrinth found me regularly walking through its pattern. Like meditation, the labyrinth is a spiritual discipline that you learn by doing, so I was diligent, walking the labyrinth 3-5 times a week.

Though I enjoyed the newness of it, I noticed that being in the labyrinth made me always think about the same thing.

Weeding.

That’s right, every time I entered my spiritual oasis I instantly became a gardener instead of a soul searcher or philosopher. How incredibly maddening!

Distractions

The gardener persisted in the labyrinth all summer, easily distracted by tree seedlings that were growing in the pots, Virginia creeper that encroached the path and pots that needed to be rotated or moved so they could get more sun. When winter came and the labyrinth was put away, I did not feel it was a waste of time, but I certainly wished that I had gained more spiritual benefit from it.

The next spring found me arranging my elephant ear pots yet again, a slightly different shape this time. My expectations were guarded, knowing how the gardener refused to yield to the philosopher last year.

The first time I walked the new labyrinth was, well, different. It’s not that the gardener didn’t notice things that needed to be trimmed, shaped, adjusted and plucked – it’s that the philosopher was able to say “you know, when I’m finished here I need to call the gardener to take care of that.”

What Changed?

Why would my experience in the labyrinth suddenly be so different? I think it was a combination of persistence, purposeful practice, and developing a comfortable routine.

Persistence

To some degree, you do just need to keep trying until you figure things out. This is true in many aspects of life, and is certainly a Biblical idea.

Therefore, my beloved brothers, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that in the Lord your labor is not in vain.

1 Corinthians 15:58

Why would we need to be told to be steadfast, immovable, and that our labor is not in vain? Probably because sometimes doing things that are right, good, just, and beneficial will be difficult, we will feel like we are not making progress and we will want to quit. But we shouldn’t – though progress may seem elusive, eventually it comes to the persistent.

Purposeful Practice

My first attempts at the labyrinth found me walking in and just allowing thoughts to materialize. They did. Thoughts of weeding.

I must admit that to some degree I had an expectation that I would be able to walk into the labyrinth and suddenly the reason to be there would come to me, perhaps in a flash of lightening or an angel choir! I kind of expected the labyrinth to do the work for me, and that’s a good way to fall short, as illustrated in Luke 14:28-30.

For which of you, desiring to build a tower, does not first sit down and count the cost, whether he has enough to complete it? Otherwise, when he has laid a foundation and is not able to finish, all who see it begin to mock him, saying, ‘This man began to build and was not able to finish.’

Luke 14:28-30

This story indicates that you need to have some understanding of your goal before you can wisely go work towards it. In the larger context of the end of Luke 14, the real lesson from Jesus is that following Him would be immensely difficult and require great sacrifice. One should consider that before signing up.

When I had a purpose before entering the labyrinth, I developed an expectation of what I wanted to think about and I was better able to focus on that, and the gardener remained outside of my practice.

Comfortable Routine

Regardless of my purpose, I enter the labyrinth with thoughts of gratitude and leave the labyrinth with requests for help or guidance. When I spend the time entering the labyrinth with thanks, then my most meaningful requests bubble to the top on the way out. It is a way for me to let the small stuff slide off of my shoulder so that the important concerns that I need to bring to God are left.

The labyrinth has definitely helped me to live grateful today!

Waiting for the Truck

It took him about 30 minutes to completely destroy our driveway.

The job foreman left him at our house in the morning to do demolition. He, the Bobcat Skid-Steer and the hydraulic breaker quickly made our old driveway and sidewalk look like an earthquake site.

I watched him skillfully zoom around, dragging the tip of the hydraulic breaker, then curling the tip up to lift sections. He was careful around the edges, and made quick work of the middle.

In 30 minutes, he had nothing to do but wait for the truck to haul away the carnage.

To him, he was waiting at a job site, but to us he was a human, sitting in a bobcat in our driveway. We really wanted to offer something more comfortable.

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I tried to talk to him – he spoke some English, but not a lot. I tried to point out the chairs on our front porch where he could relax until the truck arrived. He smiled, waved, and sat back in the bobcat.

Comfort is relative – the bobcat was familiar to him, but my porch was not.

I little later I took him a cold bottle of water. I told him earlier that they were on the porch, but he had not been brave enough to get one yet. He gratefully received it from me and quenched his thirst. In the bobcat.

We bought lunch to share with him from a local restaurant. Google translate told him that I was leaving to pick up lunch and that he could sit on the porch. Again, a smile and a wave.

I returned with take-out, and found him sitting in the bobcat. I motioned for him to follow me. We went around the side of the house and when the screened in porch was in view I indicated that we were going there. I sensed a bit of awkward discomfort and notice him duck to the side of the house to wash his hands with the garden hose.

The three of us gathered in the porch with wings, hamburgers, fries, and lots of water to drink. Thanks to some persistence, basic conversation topics, and a little help from Google translate, we managed to learn a bit about this skilled laborer who was starting to transform out driveway into something special. We shared some smiles and laughs along with our food.

The next morning he was back on the job site, along with two helpers to do the framing. He caught my eye and instantly smiled and waved – so did I.

He led his buddies to the porch for lunch.

My heart was joyful.

Grateful to Wash Dishes?

You can allow life to happen, or you can make it happen.

Washing dishes – not my favorite activity.

It needs to be done, but it feels like wasted life.

However, there are two things that my husband and I have done to make kitchen work, like washing dishes, an opportunity to create gratitude rather than a dull, lifeless, meaningless chore.

Decorate to Remember

When we moved into our house, we decided that we wanted to create a nautical-themed room. My husband loves the ocean and we don’t live near the beach, so this reminds him of one of his passions. We decided that the kitchen would make a great nautical room since we spend time there each day.

We splashed some blue paint on the wall and collected nautical decorations. Now our kitchen is home to place mats made from old sails, handmade lighthouse fabric seat cushions, hand-crafted fish, crabs, star fish, kayaking bendy people, seashell towels, even a Hobie Cat with wedding gift bridal rubber duckies enjoying a sail!

When washing dishes becomes dull and mundane, I can look around the room and be transported to memories of vacations at Cape May, the Thanksgiving that we spent in the Florida Keys, or the diversion we made to a beach in Delaware where we shivered in the evening ocean breeze watching the most beautiful cotton-candy colors in the sunset.

We created an environment where performing a boring chore can stimulate memories for which I am thankful.

Opportunities for Pleasant Distractions

During the summer months, we have a hummingbird feeder right outside of the window by the kitchen sink. The hummingbirds are less than 10 feet from me, and when they come to visit while I am washing dishes, I stop what I am doing and just watch their tiny bodies dance around the feeder between sips of sugar water.

Despite the fact that I really want to finish washing dishes and put that chore behind me, I never mind the time that I spend in stillness watching the hummingbird. Each little visit is a gift that makes me appreciate their beauty, and I find that my shoulders have relaxed a bit when they fly away.

When you create spaces that create opportunities to be grateful, even washing dishes is not so bad.

Start Living Grateful Today

Gratitude is a decision
That requires persistence.

Persistence to search until I see something worth celebrating,
Rather than remain in a place that makes me complain.

Oh, and it’s not always easy.

But, if you are like me,
and gratitude does not come naturally to you,
there is hope.

  • You can do things to create gratitude.
  • Eventually the feeling of gratitude will follow.
  • You don’t have to change for the rest of your life – you just need to live grateful today.
  • Then do it again tomorrow.

So, welcome – explore, re-assess, and gradually improve.

Start living grateful today.